Comments on U N L O A D E D: Part I: The Late Farewell

Hey I told you it was worth checking out. Glad y...

2007-06-26T00:22:00.000-04:00

Hey I told you it was worth checking out. Glad you did.

I am proud to say that you are my jewish nephew! g...

2007-06-26T00:16:00.000-04:00

I am proud to say that you are my jewish nephew! great work Mr. Lori
"L"

Hey Ricardo- sorry I'm behind on my reading. Sound...

2007-05-02T16:36:00.000-04:00

Hey Ricardo- sorry I'm behind on my reading. Sounds like this is going to be a pretty self revelatory kind of series...I hope it's theraputic for you.

I wish whatever it was would just happen and this ...

2007-05-01T16:45:00.000-04:00

I wish whatever it was would just happen and this nonesense would stop.

I've wondered before if I did something bad in a p...

2007-04-28T13:23:00.000-04:00

I've wondered before if I did something bad in a past life that I'm paying for in this one as far as family relations go. It sounds like something is converging as you keep having these incidents. Well, if there is money, it's your money.

Johnb - Glad you can relate and sorry that you can...

2007-04-28T12:51:00.000-04:00

Johnb - Glad you can relate and sorry that you can relate to what I'm talking about here. And thank you very much for the link, I really appreciate that and will have yours up soon. I enjoy your blog as well.

SJ - good to see you and hope the leg procedure went well. I'm really hoping that things do improve with your father as well. It's a much better story.

Nefty - thanks, yes calls like this are typical and this is why I'm usually changing my numbers. It's like I have to go into a witness relocation program.

Sorry to hear that...&& I too would've been distur...

2007-04-28T11:35:00.000-04:00

Sorry to hear that...&& I too would've been disturbed at that call from a drunk woman I don't know.

Me and my father just about manage to live on the ...

2007-04-28T04:58:00.000-04:00

Me and my father just about manage to live on the planet. Recently though there's been a small improvement.

btw, I've linked you...good stuff here ricardo.

2007-04-28T01:24:00.000-04:00

btw, I've linked you...good stuff here ricardo.

I ask myself those very words all too often it see...

2007-04-28T01:23:00.000-04:00

I ask myself those very words all too often it seems..."what's the con?" because more often than not, it turns out to be the case. Agendas...so much wasted energy spent; can't we relax for one freak'n minute?

laura -Yes I understand that one perfectly. I'm so...

2007-04-27T21:03:00.000-04:00

laura -Yes I understand that one perfectly. I'm sorry to hear it really. But there is more to this than meets the eye. The answers when the story continues.

I'm sorry to hear about the poor relationships wit...

2007-04-27T20:54:00.000-04:00

I'm sorry to hear about the poor relationships with part of your family. I understand where the feelings might come from when I think of my dad's sister. Like your "father's brother" she's my dad's sister, not my aunt.

Take your time writing.

Maritza - Get ready my dear.DR. A - Slow and delib...

2007-04-27T11:19:00.000-04:00

Maritza - Get ready my dear.

DR. A - Slow and deliberate will be my course, I assure you.

Tracy - Thanks:-) Those calls are never fun. I'm still looking for the real wine women and song but I will have it soon, I'm sure.

Enemy - Hope the flood was cleared up and glad the post moved you. But in what ways? Explain to us or me if you're more comfortable.

Marsha - Good to have you reading. Yes I will tell all.

Ms.Q - I had to settle for cheap wine, but it's really good stuff. Yes these people have lied themselves into a corner. You will understand soon enough.

MKD - You and I, in a strange way, go way back. LOL! I've read your posts and shook my head head saying, "Yep, I know that one."

The thing is that people who don't come from messed up families (I don't know the case of your husband but assume he is if he's asking these questions which is understandable) can't wrap their mind around how crazy and draining this stuff is. They think of their father dying and feel a bond and obligation to attend a funeral. But I know exactly what you mean by wanting to do nothing. It's just not worth doing anything as crazy as that sounds, but it's true.

I swear, sometimes I read your posts and think you...

2007-04-26T14:01:00.000-04:00

I swear, sometimes I read your posts and think you must be reading my mind or living my life in some alternate universe.

I too have a long lost "father". I'm sure somebody feels that way about him anyway - it sure as hell it's me.

Lately my husband has asked me what I would do if I got a call that said he had died. Cry? Attend the funeral? Nothing?

I side with nothing. He never did anything for me while he was alive so why should I do anything for him when he's dead? Kind of the old "what goes around comes around" way of thinking I suppose.

I don't know, maybe I'm wrong to have that attitude. But the years and years of him not being a father certainly take a toll on you - physically, mentally, emotionally. Easier to turn it all off.

I feel for you. So many of the lies I have been to...

2007-04-26T13:51:00.000-04:00

I feel for you. So many of the lies I have been told are even sadder because they are the lies that people tell themselves. I don't blame you at all for telling this in small pieces.

Happy distracting visions.

In my case, affordable or even cheap wine distracts.

take you time...I will read.

2007-04-26T10:55:00.000-04:00

take you time...I will read.

Ricardo,Lord do I understand this post. Details la...

2007-04-26T10:40:00.000-04:00

Ricardo,

Lord do I understand this post. Details later. I am at work. But you have moved me.

Middle of the night / early morning calls very rar...

2007-04-26T08:11:00.000-04:00

Middle of the night / early morning calls very rarely bode well...I can't wait to hear where all of this ends up. I wish you fun times with women and wine! 8)

I just had a big flood in my bathroom, so I can't ...

2007-04-25T21:06:00.000-04:00

I just had a big flood in my bathroom, so I can't comment well. I shall return. I want to talk about this.

our family lives are a wreck. each and every one. ...

2007-04-25T20:01:00.000-04:00

our family lives are a wreck. each and every one. most just don`t ever face it.

take your time and let it out slowly.

it will help the healing.

This is going to be a doozy! I'm sorry to hear th...

2007-04-25T18:43:00.000-04:00

This is going to be a doozy! I'm sorry to hear that they're putting you through this BS.

Stay tuned to dind out why. Leon stay tuned.

2007-04-25T15:20:00.000-04:00

Stay tuned to dind out why. Leon stay tuned.

I look forward to it. I still don't trust your "fa...

2007-04-25T14:54:00.000-04:00

I look forward to it. I still don't trust your "father's brother" (why not uncle?)

So....this upsets you that I'm taking my time in f...

2007-04-25T11:23:00.000-04:00

So....this upsets you that I'm taking my time in fleshing out this story? II'f I put it al together no one would read it. Too long.

You should just rename your blog "But not tonight....

2007-04-25T09:32:00.000-04:00

You should just rename your blog "But not tonight." Sigh.