Sometimes we need to take off the armor. It gets heavy, burdensome, stifling. We men want to strip it off and collapse from exhaustion into the arms of the right woman. It's been so long, carrying it all inside. Here she is, right in front of me or you...ready to accept all of us. It's not that you want to tell her that you cry after reruns of Little House on the Prairie or that your scared of mice because that's just not true. What you are is vulnerable in the deepest parts of your soul and while you don't fear mice or creepy crawly creatures or knife wielding thugs you are scared. You are scared shitless at THIS moment. The moment where you have to tell her how you really feel about her. That you want her, need her, will go crazy with out her.
Of course you can go on without her but you prefer not to. So you let it rip. You tell her and then, you either have it thrown back in your face or it's accepted and then, over the course of time, used against you. Why? How could she do this? That bitch!
Ladies, this scenario that I've laid out isn't etched in stone for all of you but it is something that many a woman has done to a man. "Men" on the other hand are better insulated from the pain inflicted from such episodes because they don't allow themselves to be placed in this position.
Thug
This is not the look I usually wear. Rather it is a silly costume and an attempt for me to show you that many men you encounter are wearing a costume (metaphorically speaking) similar to this; a wannabe tough guy that is not tough just obnoxious. This is where men revert to becoming "men" in the extreme sense of the word. Women are objectified to keep them from getting too close and causing damage. Suddenly the lyrics to hip hop tracks crudely discussing affairs of love and sex begin to make sense. Screw the love and get the sex, she's not worth much more to you after that. You let the door slam in their faces. You look down on them. You take satisfaction in NOT calling them back. They will ALL pay for what they did to you. You are raw, you are aggressive, you are mad and you will take what you want.
From across the room some poor women will see this energy about you and confuse it with dominance. She will show interest. You don't care what she has to say, you tune her out. You forget her name. You wonder what you have to do to fuck her and get rid of her quick and easy so you can move on to the next target. You don't reveal much about yourself. You give one word answers. Strangely this attracts woman to you even more than engaging them in conversation. You're a mystery now. A challenge that she must solve. She hounds you with calls, wonders what you are doing at all times of the day and won't take no for an answer. Within a few weeks to a few months she'll be left in a broken heap by the "man thug" as her other girlfriends gather around and wipe away her tears. She'll then ask,"Why do I go out with such jerks?"
For the "man" it's another notch in the belt. The hunt continues. But deep down he knows that this can't sustain him forever. Or can it? New adventures can't keep the heart pounding. The thug costume is a most sturdy armor.
For those of us that do take off battle gear and just choose to be ourselves, great danger awaits.
HE'S GAY!!!!!
Dress well, comb your hair and speak in an articulate manner that shows understanding and intelligence and you're likely going to get slapped with this accusation. While some of this has been tempered with the rise of the metrosexual, there are still some women that will find the real you too good to be true and go on the attack. I'll never forget the time it's happened to me. I had become good friends with a woman that I worked with and we hung out and spent a lot of time together. She was attracted to me but I was not attracted to her. She just didn't do it for me, what can I say? I loved her company but that's it. Then one day an odd conversation occurred.
Her: Watching you go after all those women like that at the new years party was something to see. Now I know you're straight.
Me: What the fuck does that mean? Of course I went after the women! I was drunk and horny. What kind of stupid statement is that? What was I supposed to do? Jack off into a martini glass behind the bar?
Her: Well....
Me: Well what?
Her: I thought you may be...you know.....
Me: Based on what?
Her: Well you had a background in the arts.
Me: I couldn't play sports! This was the next best thing and it's a great way to pick up women. Especially if I had a good part in a show. And it's not like I was doing fucking musicals here.
Her: You work out.
Me: Yeah I work out. It curves my depression and keeps me from being a pencil neck!
Her: You dress nice.
Me: I spent over a year of my life homeless and looking like shit. I was lucky to eat once a day. The looking like shit days are over for me, thank you.
Her: But you watch wrestling!
Me: Yeah, I watch wrestling!!! I always used to watch it with my grandparents! When they were in the old folks home I would come by and update them on what went down and they would perk up. I still watch it because it reminds me of a happier time in my childhood. I also like to see people get beat up and put through tables.
Her: And....and...you speak well. Really proper...
Me: Mmm...I have a vocabulary....yes.
Me: You express yourself differently than other guys.
Me: I believe in being clear with how I feel.
Her: You said that thing about Pierce Brosnan.
Note: At the time he was still playing James Bond. A series of which I'm a fan of.
Me: I said that he still looked the part despite being in his 50s! I hope I hold up that well when I'm that age!! I'm secure enough in myself to give a guy credit when credit is due. He looked great.
The conversation continued like this, ad nauseum, until I ended it. The lesson here: Don't be too much of a real man because some knuckleheads can't handle it. Another thing ladies, when men tell other men they look great it's much different than when you say it to each other and it has nothing to do with feelings of homosexuality. When a guy says to a guy that they look great it means that he still looks like he can run some laps, play 18 holes of golf or hold their own in a batting cage. It means that you still look sturdy enough to handle manly men tasks. And, as you know, we men like to challenge each other in feats of strength and endurance. It nurtures our fragile egos. Why do you think so many of us watch sports?
Also, like being called "feminine," when did taking care of yourself and being articulate become something exclusive to gay men? I have no issue at all with our gay counterparts but if I were a betting man, I'd say that there are gay men, and there are gay "men."
We Still Need Each Other
For better or worse I've been viewed as being too self sufficient to come off as desirable to certain types of women. Perhaps it's going through so many rough spots in my own life and battling out of it alone. While it's made me strong I hope it hasn't hardened my heart too much. The good thing about this is that I am 100% certain that I'm not codependent. This is a kiss of death for many a person when the enter a relationship.
It's a rough deal out there. We men like the company of a woman and to explore the beauty and mysteries of her body but not at the expense of mental turmoil. Honestly, there's nothing better then feeling a womans bare body against mine and, yes, post coital cuddling is not such a bad thing. In fact, it can be a great warm up for round 2. Chances are you women feel the same way about us men and that's where the issue lies and will continue to remain for some time to come. How do we get to the point of experiencing pleasure and intimacy with each other without the stupid games and costumes. Why do women not know what they want if they are supposedly in better tune with their emotions than us men. Conversely, why do we wen need to throw up so much armor if we are the stronger ones and do know what we want?
I can't stop the cycle for everyone but I can stop it with me.
As for being man or "man," I've learned it's best to be both and knowing when to use it. Be a gentleman sometimes and other times....let that door slam in her face. But pick your spots carefully and honestly and don't become an ass. We have enough of those in both sexes.
Coming up next on U N L O A D E D....The evil that is Enterprise Rent a Car.
Also.... Match maker, matchmaker. The yentas are after me.
And... Breathe in deeply and die. My coughing has stopped but the cure is worse than the disease. Yep I'm going to attack the pharmaceutical industry...AGAIN!!!
Wednesday, January 23, 2008
Part IV: Why Men are "Men"
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I haven't found the right combination of man-qualities that I like. Either the guy never talks, which drives me nuts, or he talks my fucking ear off, which drives me nuts. Then again I'm a bit bitter tonight. LOL
It's not easy finding a match. As for your current situation, I can understand the bitterness.
Y'know Ricardo, this series of yours has made me think in some ways about my son and how he might be feeling sometimes. There are a lot of things I let him do that I wouldn't have dreamed of letting my daughter do at the same age. That's a second kid thing and not a gender thing, at least I like to think.
But now sometimes I wonder if maybe he might not be comfortable sometimes telling me he would rather have me with him rather than the little independence & I've tried asking in a way that I hope wouldn't embarrass him to answer one way or the other. I had never really thought about it before the combo of the stitches & your series.
"Be a gentleman sometimes and other times....let that door slam in her face."
AMEN
Jill I'm glad you liked the series because the blog numbers indicate that many people did NOT. I've lost traffic and links. My technorati ranking dropped to nothing. LOL! But it had to be said and I stand by my work.
I think you issue is both a second kid AND gender thing. boys able to get away with more. And if he's comfortable or not, he still needs you and will need you for years to come. Even when he hits my age. Don't let the tough guy thing fool you. This is coming from a guy who no longer talks to his. If she was sane, I'd still need her support now at times.
Meleah - You know the game sister and I'm no fool.
Haha, the metrosexual conversation was hilarious! I would have answered the same way because I'm very comfortable and confident in my manhood.
Maybe she was testing you so you could 'prove' that you're a man, lol. Nuff said.
Rolando - screw her. I got nothing to prove to her. She wasn't anything to write home about. If she was hot I'd be proving it all night long if she wanted.
I love your Man-thug/armor metaphor and that conversation about being gay ...bwah-ahahaha! It was funny in a very sad way.
This was a great series and I'm planning to save it because it's exactly what one of my best (male) friends has been telling me over the years. Women would do well to read it.
I'm surprised that your traffic has gone down because of the series.
MsQ - I don't know how many more series I'll do after this one. I'll likely run the blog under. I can't say for sure if the bad numbers were due to this series but they have gone down..a lot. My Technorati rating has plummeted as well.
I think women may have come across it, looked it over and said "Yeah right, what would he know." And assume that I was just going to do a series in which I bash women. but that would be to easy and I don't do easy when tackling these topics.
Mind you, many a blogger would be happy with the numbers I got. But they are not U N L O A D E D numbers. The highest rated series I've done is the one on Russian mail order brides. That still brings in visitors to this day.
This got responses but not as much as I was expecting. And the downturn was sad. But I am proud of this series and I think it's some of the best work I've done. I think it will find it's popularity over time instead of being an instant "hit."
I hope your friend enjoys it. He knows the deal. And don't save this one until a day or so. I need to work out the small little grammatical errors that crop up even after I proof read.
*Applause* Yet another great post. Dude, a chick thought you were gay. Oh man. I'd be pissed too. I agree. The whole thug thing is just a suit of armour. Every man needs a woman he can feel secure with. Even rap artistes get hitched eventually.
shame your numbers dropped because I think this series includes some of your best writing.
then again, most surfers aren't looking for intelligent content on the web.
ignore the numbers. it's the quality of the work that counts
Thank you. Yes the numbers are down but the writing is definitely up. I was almost putting as much energy behind this as I do with my screenplays. And that's LOTS of energy. I try to do a little of everything here and at the heart of it, I try to hold some degree of intelligence. I'm sure I'd do much better doing stuff catering to the lowest common denominator but it wouldn't really be me nor would it be rewarding over time on a personal level. However I'm glad the faithful readers such as yourself have enjoyed it and that's what counts. I hope you were able to glean some useful stuff from this. In fact I think there more valuable info here than anything you'll read in a magazine like Cosmo or some other women's magazine. And some of those are written be relationship experts. I'm just a guy sharing my insight from living life.
I get pissed off when I'm called a bitch, but I've also called men much more worse names. Witness the ex-bf I refer to as the motherfucker. I have also had the "bitch!" thought myself after an unpleasant encounter with a female friend or coworker. I consider myself a staunch feminist but also believe if we're going to dish it out, we have to be able to take it.
Great series. It is truly tough in being a man. Wanting to give a woman you’re all but having yourself worried that she will see you as week if you show too much love and care.
Why are their stereotypes based on how you make take care of yourself? So what you get your haircut every week and you actually press your clothes? Why is it a bad thing that you actually smell good?
The scary thing about all that is that a lot of us men take better care of ourselves than some woman I know.
Step up Ladies. Your game isn't as tight as it used to be.
Good stuff Ricardo. I was especially amused by the "bad boy" image--I've seen that time and time again; the man behaves or perhaps is an unfeeling jerk or simply very direct in his wants: "Let's have sex but no relationship", and the ladies get enthralled. I also know it drives other men crazy when they try to treat women well and they see these bad boys get all the babes. I'm sure books have been written on that topic alone.
I understand the whole thing about what you are saying with the word "bitch." Sure, it is insulting, but I've been called worse! And in my marriage, I have returned all rude names with a heightened sense of insult. I remember my husband calling me a bitch once when he was mad and I called him a motherfucker. That ended that argument. But in the way you mean it (I am guessing) is when you have allowed yourself to be vulnerable, a hard thing for men, I know, and somehow she spits on it. I know men are big on that armour and letting it down. I also have a similar trait, so when a man hurts me, I would resort to the same. Anyone who takes advantage of another's vulnerability, no matter what the gender, deserves to be called a rude name. It hurts.
I get you, bro.
Monique - Yes, No one likes being called harsh names. That's a given but within the context of this post I was trying to reflect what is going through a mans head after rejection. Anger is a given. Harsh names will enter and exit the mind quickly. You've been dealt a blow. I am attempting to illustrate this for my readers and do not feel this is out of bounds in an attempt at being honest about how we deal with one another.
And it is also not out of bounds to use harsh names against someone who has been harsh with you. We are human, it happens. If I commit one terrible act after another, is calling me a bastard really crossing the line? I've earned the name so I shouldn't be shocked!! If you don't want to be called bitch or something else like the C word, then treat people well, carry yourself well. That goes for both sexes. We treat each other much too harshly sometimes. Will there be some who still find it necessary to call others names just because? Yes. But they're all a bunch of asses anyway.
Urban - It's no picnic walking that tightrope my friend. You don't want to get too jaded but you don't want to be a pushover. I think looking good and taking care of yourself is odd to some women. Now let me be clear....this is not advocating the pretty boy image. I'm simply talking about men who take the step to be presentable not narcissistic. That's the difference. There's also an art to keeping up on things but still looking like you haven't. That's my trade. LOL!
Enemy - A woman that actually read the post and understands the meaning of CONTEXT. Thank you for your thoughts.
I agree with nursemyra - this series is some of your best work. Your Russian Brides series was also excellent!
I also concur with your assessment that what you've written about the male psyche is more valuable than relationship articles in many of the women's magazines. As I've commented on earlier, you've written about the very thoughts a close male friend of mine has shared with me. Men don't want to be hurt anymore than women and women and women can be very cruel and belittling. I hear stories from men. There seem to be a lot of women with unacknowledged anger out there.
Regarding your calling a woman "that bitch" I took that in the context of "I told you I loved you/can't live without you and now you treat me like crap...you bitch!"
Name calling ... happens during emotional extremes. I also took that as an example of what goes on in a man's head - not necessarily your own response. Not that I'd blame you if you did have that response!
It'd be very ironic indeed if women new to your blog just took one look at you (your photo) and assume that your series was going to bash women! You do have Lone Wolf written all over your photos! However, I take it all very tongue-in-cheek.
I think your series did a great job in showing what men have to go through when it comes to relationships and it wasn't all prettied up. I don't think you were bashing women at all. I think women are so used to thinking of men a sex-hungry insensitive jerks that they feel justified in being bitches - a bit of shoot first, ask questions later!
About the mistaken for being gay thing - I know someone who is a hairdresser, has excellent taste in clothing and decor, takes care of his appearance and is straight. He accepts himself and it totally comfortable with who he is.He doesn't care if people think he is gay.
I don't get the feeling that you're afraid of ending up alone - at least no more than the rest of us. What I have seen is that the better you know yourself and the more secure you become with you you are, the less you end up dating. The male friend who uses the term "brain damage" for what women put him through? He rarely dates...and he could date...a LOT! You end up being described as "picky" because you won't "settle."
Haha, Ricardo. If she's nothing to write home about, then good thing nothing happened. Sympathy 'f's are the worse, lol
Rolando - Sympathy fs are the worse unless it's a Playboy Playmate or something showing mercy on me. LOL!
KELLY - Well kelly, I was using the word as an example of how a man MIGHT think after being rejected. Not really how I feel. I think you're jumping to conclusions and misreading it all entirely. I do sense some bitterness in you.
I also think you need to read the series before you make such a sweeping judgment on me. I question and attack bravado in this series.
Furthermore I don't think you really read this. I think you skimmed it.
As for there ever being a real reason to call a woman the B word...well act like one and you may be called one just as a man can earn a nasty name for himself if he acts like an ass. There is such a thing as accountability for ones actions and bad names come with that territory.
I'm not afraid of being alone. I work better that way.
One last thing Kelly, look at the comments throughout this blog. The majority of my readers are WOMEN! Why do you think that is?
God, men have it hard, don't they? Living under this facade of "toughness" just so they won't be seen as a homosexual.
I'm so glad I'm a lesbian!!! (ha)
As far as the word "bitch" goes - this could be applied to men too...heh...but I didn't take offense to it at all, only because it was used in the context of "You don't understand me dammit!" So, it made sense. No hurt feelings. (I'll scream at you later bitch!)
I know this post goes with a man and woman scenario, however, with two women, there's always a dominating one - a "tougher" one - which would be yours truly - me. I sometimes will say things when I mean the total opposite - trying to make her understand, "I need you here with me!" ...but I don't want to be seen as this controlling...umm..."bitch", so I say, "Oh, no, go ahead sweetie, I'll be fine here...alone...again." ha. Get my drift?
Great well thought out post!!!
*Squeezes you in that tough guy suit*
Deb - Thank you for actually reading and seeing the point of what I was trying to say. Most of my readers are women and even if they weren’t, I’m not the hateful type. I've even been called a bitch myself in way to show fondness! How about that?
I could not cover the dynamics of a male/male or female/female relationships because I could not write about them with any real honesty or authenticity. That would not be fair to members of the gay and lesbian community. But from what you are sharing here, it seems to be more of the same. This is very interesting to me because although the same genders are present in the coupling, there are pseudo gender roles none the less. If gender roles is the wrong term, then there is there is still the dominant / submissive thing going on.
You like that silly picture? I got some other funny ones like that which I took for this series. We do put on the tough guy roll and it can be pretty lame. Hence the ridiculous picture.
Glad the “bravado” from this lonely old man didn’t offend you. LOL!
ok so how do women think men react when you are badging yourselves with the feminist title, ladies?
what does this bravado or machismo hide?
this shit goes both ways......
oh and monique, please don`t be bitter....
i learned something about myself and women this last year.
i am an evolving spirit with the need to be in a relationship for all the human reasons, and women are delightful, enigmatic creatures that are as confused and desirous and scared and intrigued as i am.
we can do one of two things.
set up two camps and talk about eachother alone....or hang out together and enjoy eachother`s company as equals and see what happens.
the thing is.....it is our own state that either attracts or rejects.
learn to align yourself with your own beauty and attractiveness (and this statement alone flies in the face of common thought) and you will be suprised at how others will be attracted to you.
Dr.A - That's what's so funny. The so called "feminist" (cough....Kelly) thinks it's perfectly fine to take a swing at me and spout personal insults and I, as man, must sit there and take it because it's coming from a woman. And I guess the reaction of a man who has spilled his soul to a woman and had it rejected should not be mad at all because the woman has no accountability in a relationship. It's all the man's fault and he should not have angry thoughts, he should say "Oh fiddle sticks, she doesn't like me. Good heavens, what ever will I do? I should know better than to think myself worthy of her attention. I'm too crude of a being. Golly geez."
This is not feminism, it's manipulation and emasculation in the guise of it. There is a big difference.
As far as Bravado and Machismo go, this series was a critique on the short comings of those things. Do I not call it a silly costume in the post?
"we can do one of two things.
set up two camps and talk about each other alone....or hang out together and enjoy each other’s company as equals and see what happens."
Right on. I agree. And that is what I was hoping to accomplish with this series.
i was refering to the bravado and machismo of feminism, another silly costume.....to extend the device.
and to ~deb, i don`t mind people thinking i might be homosexual, i am tall, lean and fit and i dress well and am articulate in my speech and so i take it as a complement if that could suggest a certain sexual orientation.
i am comfortable enough in my self that it`s not important what people thing of me casually.
and ricardo, the programming that culture impart to us about sex-roles is what divides us, and it takes a lot of energy to break the programming, as you have seen here.
it takes a long time for a woman to get to really know the culture of men as humans. some of my younger college age friends seem to do it reasonably, but sex does change things.......and at my age i value thier friendship and companionship more than sex.
two of my girlfriends came out to one of my soccer games last year and brought a huge banner that said go-alistair-go on it. they are two of the most beautiful omen you will ever meet and they are sincerely just friends.
you couldn`t convince my team-mates or thier wives and girlfriends though...and i didn`t try.
Dr.A - Some of the hatred of men that passes for feminism these days would have Susan B Anthony turning in her grave. I’ve encountered many women who declare themselves feminist who really just hate men because they got dumped or passed over by guys in their teens and it's a carry over from high school that gets reinforced in college. I ask you, what good does that do to the ideals of feminism and how does it achieve a better understanding of the opposite sex? It’s not feminism, it’s women wallowing in their angst and making men the scapegoat so they don’t have to solve their own issues. But again, this isn’t feminism, it’s something else and I’m not taking the heat for it. The genuine feminists I have encountered actually get along well with me. Some of them read this blog.
I need 2 beautiful women waving a "go ricardo go" sign one day. LOL1
MsQ - Yes I think this is some of the best work I've done and I stand by it. The issue with people like Kelly is they don't read and just assume. It's obvious from her comment that's what she did. Also it would not go over well if I went onto a woman's blog and insinuated that I wanted to deck her based on something she wrote and I took out of context. I don't see feminism with her, I see hypocrisy predicated on stupidity. This runs through many a man and woman.
I said from the beginning this would not be a piece that squarely places the blame on women nor did I set out to bash women. People that take the time to read this series and posses critical faculties will clearly understand. People with agendas and an inherent hatred for the male sex will go the way of Kelly. Her response was classic and typical for these types.
I was as honest as I could possibly be here. It's not often that a man will put his balls on the chopping board like this. It's very hard for us to do.
Moving on, the more secure a man is with himself the more people will get thrown off by it. I think many women are used to the insecure type and don't know what to make of a guy that's at easy with his quirks.
Mind you I'm not a pretty boy metro sexual. I just iron my cloths and comb my hair But even that is odd for some women that I encounter. What really gets them is being open with my feelings and articulate.
I have been through hell and back alone in my life so I really could care less if I grow old alone. I've been battle hardened and taxes scare me more than that.
I totally get your friend. I could date far more often than I do but it's not worth the brain damage. I'm very at ease with where I am and don't need to date for a sense of self worth.
well, ricardo, it seems as if you have some cheeleaders here.....
i`m not really sure what a feminist is, other than a political entity serving a group`s needs.
if i was constantly going on about what i needed and formed a group or suggested membership in such a group with the express purpose of politically pressuring others to meet my needs, i would expect resistance......
i question the motives of people who call themselves anything that identifies them as memebers of anything first.
fist and last name is all i need.
oh yeah, and a smile.......
I want my husband to shovel our driveway. Why won't he do it?
Dr.A - Good points. I have absolutely no issue with women wanting to have end enjoy many of the things that we men may take for granted. If there is inequality in the workplace or society and a woman's freedoms are restricted, then we could certainly use some feminism to bring things into balance. They have the right to want this and politically organize to achieve it. However there are radical sects of this group that seem to despise men and ship us all off to the moon and they also call themselves feminists. I don't think that helps either side.
I also agree with you on people who put an "ism" before who they are. Where is the individual? Show me that. It's so much more interesting.
ALF - LOL! Take the toy that he loves the most and hold a sledge hammer over it then issue the ultimatum. Or, for a softer touch, find the sexiest outfit you have and tell him he can't "get with this until he shovels this" Then point him to the driveway. If that doesn't work, hit him repeatedly in the shins with the shovel until he gives in.
If he won't shovel the driveway - then we call them "bastards"! hehe! Ok, bad joke.
Ricardoooooooooooo, I would never want you to cover the homosexual aspects of it - I love hearing the hetero side of the world! I just love giving you a little piece of my life and the dynamics of it.
Deb those insight are greatly valued here because it gives us yet another perspective on a side I'm not exposed to. In a way, hearing what you have to say, helps me better understand lots of women and how they thing in a strange way.
I am a selfish bastard and proud of it. :-P
I meant to reply the other day. You make a good thug...'cause I would be scared if you walked in behind me at a circle K. :)
Marsha - LOL! I had to pull tough and menacing before when I lived in a very dangerous neighborhood in New Haven CT. People thought I was an undercover cop and one time they tried to get me to snort coke to prove I wasn't. I didn't touch the stuff and was able to talk my way out of it. Those acting skills sure payed off in that situation. That picture just cracks me up.
I've been reading & re-reading this series...I love it!
Now that I know you're all human-that changes everything.
Thanks? :)
Leah I'm really glad this was of help to you and I hope it clears up some things. We're not all born evil, LOL!
Wheeeew...
Thanks Ric, it was a genuine pleasure to read through your fantastic posts about "men's world". Good writing. Excellent style. Enjoyable details. So clear and explaining.
"Another thing ladies, when men tell other men they look great it's much different than when you say it to each other and it has nothing to do with feelings of homosexuality"
and...
"I have no issue at all with our gay counterparts but if I were a betting man, I'd say that there are gay men, and there are gay "men.""
These points won my heart.
Let me say my conclusion from what I've read in your "men" posts:
This is a man's world, but it would be nothing without a woman
;)
Nelli - Thank you so much for taking the time to read it all and sharing your thoughts. I knew you'd enjoy this series. I hope it clears up some things in your interactions with men.
Yep, Ricardo, it surely clears up some things. Helpful.
Nellioness - Love ya! Thanks! I actually had a "feminist" come on here saying she wanted to deck me and that I'm covering up the fact that I'm scared of being a lonely old man. LOL!
bravo to you my friend...and well said.
the series was everything that should be spoken, but never ever is.
JohnB - Thanks friend. It's hard being a guy and we need something that explains why. I'm no shrink but I gave it my best shot and was honest about it. I will likely never get a date again if enough women read this, but I am doing it for the greater good of man. LOL!
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